Writing this took guts — it's brave, raw, and painful. I think what hurts most is when the person you've loved for so long and who clearly loves you as well simply won't hear you. While how each of us meets aging and the changes in our bodies (and, gulp, minds) is to some extent guided by individual choice, the results of that choice affect more than just us. Maybe this is one of those things that your husband simply cannot hear — from you. Who knows why: sometimes I think men are wired that way. But maybe he can hear it from somebody else. Meanwhile, keep up the healthy habits and I hope writing this let some pressure out of the steam valve. Hugs.