Thoughtful piece. It’s clear that if we want healthy and satisfying relationships — ones that are good for all parties involved — we have to learn to know ourselves and then take responsibility for our own “stuff.”

As you point out, if we can do that, we are not stuck with a less-than-optimal attachment style. I’ve experienced this firsthand.

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