This is so spot-on. Grief is, above all, bewildering. It's universal yet unique. Everyone born will cause grief or meet grief, and almost all of us will do both. Please don't apologize for writing about death: I know that grief can also feel like a contagion you don't wish to spread to others (sometimes other people lead you to feel that way, other times it's just you struggling with the weirdness of feeling invisibly wounded, different from everybody else). But sharing your experience and your hard-won wisdom as only you can -- that is maybe the most uplifting and life-affirming thing you can do. And then go have a beer.