The star towards which we strive, yes indeed. Our need to belong is primal. Therefore it also has its dark side. Our drive to find home ground can so easily lead to defining that home (territory, clan, tribe, culture) in terms of exclusion. We’ll defend our homes to the death, and we will defend them against threats both real and imagined. Mostly imagined, like people who differ from us or who we fear will take our resources and ultimately, our places. Seems to me that we’re challenged to adopt a much more expanded view of what belonging means.

And that, as with all else, comes down to a choice between love and fear.

Thanks for prompting me to think about this.

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