Thanks for your clear-eyed honesty in this piece — and I am so glad for you and your (darling!) grandson that you're building a life together and scaffolding a worthy future for him. My husband and I volunteer as court-appointed advocates for kids in foster care, and we are in awe of the grandparents and other family members who will, even when it's absolutely not what they had planned for the rest of their lives, step in for the kids whose parents are unable to care for them.