I salute and support you for starting this critically important conversation. Like some of the other commenters here, I am a feminist who most definitely wants men, and everyone anywhere on the gender spectrum, included in the path forward to a more just, compassionate, sane, and sustainable world. My husband, my two adult sons, my nephews, and my brother-in-law are all kind, strong, sensitive, and highly effective men of great integrity, and I couldn’t be prouder of them. I’m also a middle school educator, and I see firsthand how the man-box hurts and distorts boys as they try to navigate these bewildering years. I want every one of them to have a chance to break free and become the fully dimensional, wholehearted individuals they’re capable of being.